All the hurt, all the anger, all the despair ends with you. You just have to want it.
I see a lot of people going through the same cycle over and over again, holding onto past hurts and pains that no longer serve them. But the pain, the anger, the despair is their comfort zone. They’re used to the cycle because they don’t know anything else. And as soon as they get to breaking that cycle, all they wanna do is to refer back to it because it’s what they know.
I noticed that even in family dynamics, we hold on to what our ancestors did for us, what our parents did for us and we feel as though we need to continue that cycle because it’s what we’re used to. It’s what we know, it’s what our parents did, it’s what our ancestors did. But in reality, we can break that cycle. We don’t have to hold on to something that just was not working in the first place.
I remember I shared with my coach that we hold seven generations inside of us. So that means we have our parents, our grandparents, our great-grandparents, our great-great-grandparents, and so on and so forth for seven generations. However, when you look at your parents, they don’t have themselves as one of the generations that has the seven. They have an extra generation on us because it goes back to their parents, their grandparents, their great-grandparents, and so on and so forth until you get to seven. So as we start to lose generations in our own lines as we become a new generation. We become what our parents were not, what our grandparents were not, what our great-grandparents were not because every generation is an opportunity to create a new future for our family line. However, many people just don’t realize that they have a chance to change their path or whatever situation their family is in for the better.
But people are so used to how they grew up, what they went through, how they got to where they are, that they don’t pay attention to that. It just takes one decision to alter your future, to alter the path that you wanna be on. And I can share from experience because I’m in this new journey in my life where I thought my path was in property management and I thought it was the best thing in the world. It was what I wanted to do, where I wanted to be, how I wanted to be in the world. And so I got all these jobs. I started in residential. I moved to commercial because residential just gave me a massive headache. And I was like, Nope, not for me.
Commercial real estate was a game changer for me because I had a great boss to start off with. Then I didn’t have the boss anymore and I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t know where to go. I didn’t know how my life was gonna be. So I was in the same position for so many years and different jobs, different companies, same position. And I hated every minute of it, but I was told over and over, just get a job. Do what you do, make money. It’ll be okay. You’ll figure it out.
So I read a lot of books ’cause I love to read. I love to delve into fiction and just lose myself to a different reality than the one that I’m already currently in. All development/ self-help books put me to sleep. I know I’ve written one, but they put me to sleep. But you know, in all of the books that I’ve read, every single book was a person changing their future.
So why can’t I change mine? And why can’t you change yours?
What is the one thing I can change or the one thing that you can change in your life to be where you want to be, to change your future, to know that there is is more out there than what you chose to believe. What society chose for you to believe, what your family chose for you to believe, et cetera, et cetera.
So what’s one change that you can make this week or next week or whenever that can change your future for the better? I’ll share mine when I get there.