It’s so easy to get caught up with everyday life that it’s easy to take for granted what we already have.
I recently had a dream that taught me a lesson that i kept forgetting about.
Without going into all the details, I came to the realization that i have been living my life making others happy while putting my happiness to the side.
And once I start to take ownership of my happiness, the ones that were benefiting from my kindness started getting threatened by my boundaries.
I’ve done that with family, friends, relationships and also with my bosses. And I was always wondering why I was always sad at the end of the day.
And if you’re reading thing and saying people pleasing, you’re 100% right.
It’s because while making others happy, we forget that we can be happy as well. Like our happiness is contingent on others happiness.
I feel like God put that message in my dream to remind me that I can be happy too. That I can do things and set boundaries that make me happy.
For the longest, I’ve been thinking about past relationships and how if I just did what they wanted me to do then I would still have them in my life. But it made me more depressed thinking about potential conversations than it did actually living in my present life.
Honestly, people pleasing is a dangerous tool and can take you from happiness to sadness real quick.
I guess what this blog is really about is your happiness comes before others. And that your boundaries help you stay true to your values. Compromising that to fit into someone’s bubble devalues who you are.
Don’t let others tell you your values and boundaries are not valid. They are and you are worthy to have them.